Trigger warning: child abuse
“You are selfish.” My mother would say to me so many times I cannot count. Any time I did something she didn’t want me to do. She said many other things…but I won’t go into that this time. My whole childhood my family told me who I was. It wasn’t kind. For most of my childhood, adolescence, and early adulthood I sincerely believed it. They told me I was a bad person in every way. They used my deep desire to love them and my various weaknesses so that they could manipulate me into being their scapegoat so that I could be used. And it…
